Americans often say, 'I don't know anyone who is....' If they spoke English, they would say 'I don't know anyone who is openly....'
Nationalism has given us phrases like 'Japanese are very...' or 'Americans often...' In confronting isms, we must use phrases such as these, while endeavouring to not reinforce unhealthy isms.
Japanese culture is fond of discretion. This often results in an unhealthy tendency to not openly discuss. For instance, passing gas, urinating, making love are natural bodily functions which are not suitable for polite conversation. To paraphrase, 'No sex please, we're Japanese.'
Americans err in the opposite direction. If you spend less than a nanosecond with an American, and it hasn't explained the organism's orientation, there is something wrong with that American. We need more wrong Americans.
Simultaneously, there is nothing wrong with love making, if done properly. If I meet a gay guy, and I raise the issue of my orientation, I sense he is thinking, 'He wants me to be cisgender.' I don't care to whom you make love.
Moreover, non-cis folks are making me feel like I must pick a side. Is the issue my non-issue with your orientation, or is the issue your issue with me not taking issue with your issues?
